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#1693064 - 11/13/17 01:20 PM Dommes, what do you value more?
Soapy Offline

Registered: 11/29/99
Posts: 10050

Masochism or obedience?

#1693071 - 11/13/17 03:22 PM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Soapy]
GoddessLilith Offline

Registered: 08/31/09
Posts: 30
Loc: Boston/Providence - will trave...
Definitely obedience.
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#1693095 - 11/13/17 07:08 PM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Soapy]
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Registered: 03/16/14
Posts: 256
This is a trick question. Why would they alienate any part of their constituency?

#1693096 - 11/13/17 07:14 PM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Komodo]
Miss_Isobel_Devi Offline

Registered: 05/04/17
Posts: 9
Loc: Denver Colorado
Originally Posted By: Komodo
This is a trick question. Why would they alienate any part of their constituency?

Where as I agree with this statement, ultimately obedience would win because it is the gateway to the upgrades I can make to any slave, for any purpose.
- Princess Isobel Devi

#1693115 - 11/13/17 10:41 PM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Miss_Isobel_Devi]
Ms Kimora Vaughn Offline

Registered: 02/11/17
Posts: 2
Loc: Warren, MI = USA
It is difficult to only choose one, both are valued equally.
You've been naughty, it's time for your discipline.

#1693127 - 11/14/17 12:45 AM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Soapy]
Mistress Maya Offline

Registered: 08/02/02
Posts: 2276
Loc: Chicago & Outcall everywhere
Obedience for sure. One can always build up their pain threshold and learn to become a masochist.

Miss Maya Sinstress

#1693149 - 11/14/17 09:57 AM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Soapy]
Komodo Offline

Registered: 03/16/14
Posts: 256
I originally misunderstood your question and I wonder if I was the only one. I thought that the question was masochism or submissiveness not masochism or obedience, because these are valid choices.

A guy asking for a session without guaranteeing obedience would be like a professional mistress not guaranteeing safety. There is an implicit contract after all. Was this what you meant or you really meant obedience?

#1693172 - 11/14/17 05:18 PM Am I the only one? [Re: Soapy]
international Offline

Registered: 11/26/01
Posts: 104
I am not really a masochist (I don't enjoy pain), and I am not obedient at all.
What I look for in a session is to be physically (with pain) coerced into obedience. It is the power dynamics that I find intriguing, trying to resist yet being forced to submit.
Plain obedience - I find that boring.

#1693176 - 11/14/17 06:15 PM Re: Dommes, what do you value more? [Re: Soapy]
Lady Bellatrix Offline

Registered: 01/31/13
Posts: 236
Loc: Paris, France
Originally Posted By: Soapy

Masochism or obedience?


While I truly value a hard core masochist, you can't force someone to be something they are not.

Also, if someone was a total masochist but disobedient about it (ie "I'm a maso but I ain't no sub) that would piss Me off. I have experienced a hand full of masos who totally topped from the bottom.

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Now sessioning from a private dungeon in 10eme

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#1693209 - 11/15/17 06:58 AM Re: Am I the only one? [Re: international]
Komodo Offline

Registered: 03/16/14
Posts: 256
There is a possibility I misinterpret what you say, but I think that what you like is to be broken, and forced to do or say one particular thing you are resisting.

But I do not really believe that in the process of getting there you are not obedient. If your mistress wants to handcuff you would you resist? If she tells you to face the wall you wouldn't? If you resist things like this you could session only with Ve Ve Lane or other world class fighter. I find difficult to believe that you expect a mistress to have to overpower you.

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